Sunday, 18 February 2018

How Can You Get Over A Breakup?


 A BREAKUP can crush a joyful disposition and replace it with tearful despair.

 WHY IT HURTS

You might think. Will I ever be able to move on?  Your distress is understandable because Love is as powerful as death.

Breaking up may be one of the most traumatic experiences you’ve ever have to endure. In fact, some have said that a breakup is like a minideath. You may even find yourself going through these and perhaps other typical stages of grief.

The good news is that you can reach the acceptance stage. How much time it will take to get there depends on a number of factors, including how long your relationship lasted and how far it progressed. In the meantime, how can you cope with your heartbreak?

Time heals all wounds. When you first break up, those words might ring hollow. That’s because time is only part of the solution.

A cut on your skin will heal in time, but it hurts now. You need to stop the bleeding and soothe the pain. You also need to keep it from becoming infected. The same is true with an emotional wound. Right now, it hurts. But there are steps you can take to lessen the pain and keep from becoming infected with bitterness. Time will do its part, but how can you do yours?

Allow yourself to grieve. There’s nothing wrong with having a good cry but after that also consider below.

Take care of your physical health. Physical exercise and proper nutrition will help replenish the energy lost as a result of the emotional toll of a breakup.
Keep busy. Don’t stop doing the things that interest you. And now, more than ever, don’t isolate ourself. Associating with those who care about you and will give you something positive on which to focus.

 Time gives you a much clearer perspective. Later, your emotions won’t be running so high, so you can think about the situation objectively and get some closure. Also, you can find out more about who you are and what you would look for in a mate, as well as what to guard against to avoid a similar situation in the future. Next article will discuss how to identify true love.

Tuesday, 22 November 2016

Quality of a woman

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband sex. You must give it to him how he wants it. Sex is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty. No man can withstand sex starvation for too long (even the anointed ones)

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.

29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife,pray always for your husband and family.

Send it to every woman you know. You never know whose marriage you are about to save. And to every man so that the women in their lives can be better guided,don't take it personal.

Saturday, 28 March 2015

INEC WEBSITE HARKED

INEC website was harked by a team called Nigerian Cyber Army, though the website was restored after two hours.

Note, the message dropped by the harkers, I quote "
Sorry xD your site has been stamped by teaM Nigeria Cyber Army.
FEEL some shame admin.

Security is just an illusion

Remember US GREETINGS OF PEACE TO CITIZEN
OF NIGERIA FROM TEAM NCA
NIGERIANS

No Body Can Give You Freedom No
Body Can Give You Equality Or Justice If You Are

A Man/Woman YOU TAKE IT

Its 2015 Elections And We Are Here AGain But

This Time In A Different Form, APC Claimed They
Hacked Into INEC DATABASE But We Own The

DATABASE Long Before Now So No Worries

No  Fear To All NIGERIANs…GO And Cast Your Vote
And We Assure You That Your Vote Must Count
Because We Are The Kings Of The NIgerRian
CYber SPACE.

NOTE: WE GAT ACCESS TO OTHER HIGH
RANKING NIGERIAN GOVERNMENT SERVERS,

BUT WE ARE NOT HERE FOR THAT TODAY!.

INEC DONT TRY TO RIG BECAUSE WE HAVE BEEN

WATCHING YOU DAY AND NIGHT FOR MONTHS

NOW BUT DONT BE SCARED WE MEAN NO HARM

COS IF YOU ATTEMPT TO RIG YOU WILL PAY!!

WE ARE THE THE VOICE OF THE YOUTHs!!

WE ALSO USE THIS MEDIUM TO ADVICE ALL
POLITICAL PARTIES: WHO PRICE GO PAY.

WE DO NOT FORGIVE

WE DO NOT FORGET

EXPECT US!
Wy

ENUGU BOMBING

A bomb exploded at WTC secondary and primary school in Enugu state, the first bomb exploded without much sound at 7:39 am.

The bomb was ploted in a Honda car with a registration number KUJ  971  LB. LATER, three of the bomb  was detonated, it was confirmed that the saloon Honda car was still carrying other explosive devices.

According to Batur, who said that the purpose of those men was not known, though lives were not lost.

Read more, INEC WEBSITE HARKED

Wednesday, 25 March 2015

EMOTIONAL/PSYCHOLOGIÇAL MOLESTATION

Emotional or psychological abuse
is defined as the infliction of
anguish,extreme pain, or discomfort through verbal or nonverbal acts.

Don't think verbal acts is limited to being called stupid or foolish by your sibling or who ever.
Verbal abuse includes

1.Being reminded always of when or how you failed in a particular life endeavor. For example, you failed an external exams and your family keeps humiliating you by reminding you always that you are a failure and can amount to nothing.

This can also happen in relationships, where maybe one partner appears more successful than the other, and constantly throws it to the face of the other partner. He/she always reminds their partner of how lucky they are to have successful persons like them.

2. Verbal abuse is real and the reason some youths soils their hands in the bid to make money quick especially when his partner, parents and friends insults and humiliate him because he doesn't control money to perform his duties.

 Some girls prostitutes because of verbal abuse from their mothers. Mothers are always fond of using this words "don't you know what your mates are doing?" "Haven't you seen what your mates have achieved?"

"Ngozi bought wrapper for her mom, all you do is eat and expect from your mom"
 most youths has heard this words or something close to it, if such a person is not guided he could do anything just to prove to their parents that they are responsible and not useless as assumed.

3.Verbal abuse comes to play when your partner tells you words like " you are getting fatooo, if you don't control it I will abandon you for a look for a slimmer person". This is where ladies begins to loose their self worth and tries to starve in order to suit their partner, please your partner can drive to hell if he so wishes because he does not even deserve you.

 Am not saying you shouldn't watch your weight but let him not humiliate you in process . Some partners might say "you are short, therefore you must put on heels whenever we are going out" I laugh in chinese because that's arrant bullshit and funny enough some ladies still find themselves stuck to such men.

Abeg the guy should look for the nearest transformer to hug. Some girls even continually reminds their partner of how richer her ex- boyfriends are, of how guys out there lavished money on their gals etc. Dear guys, such a girl should make use of the door in your life because she can destroy you.

Am sorry for sounding so harsh but its true. Sometimes you got into a relationship with dreams and a sound mind but with time, you find out that your ego and self worth has been broken and your life seems dependent on your partner's.

Does Your partner insult you before strangers? Does he/she ridicule you in public or with his friends. Do they make you feel that they are too good for you?

Then you must follow this weeks post, it will help you so much to understand why they treat you the way they do and how to get a deserving life.
Other verbal abuse are threats and blackmails

Non verbal acts includes

1. Silent treatment: ie being ignored, Its almost in every relationship. Infact I do it at times. When am offended I just ignore the person, it is wrong.

2. Abandonment from a love one

3. Neglect from loved ones especially if the neglected is a minor or helpless elder. Please don't neglect your parents, it can break them down.

4. Harassment etc.

EFFECTS OF physical and emotional Abuse.

To be continued
Green Inspiration.

Tuesday, 24 March 2015

DIED OF ABUSE

To little sister who died of abuse

Hush, little sister
Please don't cry
I wish I could be there
To sing you a lullaby
I can see your arms
Bloodied and bruised

That's strange, little sister
Mine were like that too
I know you scream
When Daddy's there
Hush, little sister

I know you're scared
I can see the way
He's hurting you
I'm sorry, little sister
He did that to me too
I know that people

Ignore what's going on at home
That makes me angry, little sister
You shouldn't have to be alone
Hey, little sister
You want to know why I'm not
there?

It's a sad story, little sister
But people should care
You see, little sister
One day Daddy got high
You were asleep in your crib
So you didn't hear my cry

He screamed at me
And smashed my head against
the door
While you slept, little sister
I died on the floor
You know, little sister

I don't think that I would have
died
If someone had only bothered
To listen to my cries
But hush, little sister
Daddy's coming home
Quick, get into bed

You don't want him to find you
alone
I'm sorry little sister
He's in a bad mood
Run while you can
Uh oh little sister
He's lifting his belt

Scream while you can, little sister
Call for help
Hush little sister
You don't need to cry
No one can hurt you
You're in my arms tonight.

From a boy who survived abuse but lost his only sister to their father's brutality.

Posted by Green Inspiration.
Stop Abuse.

PHYSICAL MOLESTATION


The purpose of this exposition is to enable us identify when we are being molested and when we are molesting others knowingly or unknowingly.

Physical molestation is defined as the
use of physical force that may result in bodily injury, physical pain, or impairment. This includes all forms of slapping, hitting, kicking, shaking, punching, force feeding, pushing and shoving from a person to another.

It also comprises of all shades of sexual assault, ranging from forceful undue sexual exposure of a minor e.g. Forceful exposure of a minor to adult films. Sexual assault also means RAPE i.e. A man forcefully having sex with his wife, a man raping his maid, a man raping his daughter, a boy forcefully having carnal knowledge of his sister, cousin, female friends.

 Funny enough, women/girls also participates in raping activities, they rape both boys and gals; teaching the girls lesbianism and most times you find out that your female house help or aunts forceful let your male kids into the world of un-quench-able thirst of sex.

To be sincere, if you fell under any of these categories be it that it is in the past or you are still experiencing it, then you need to stay tuned to this week's post as it will help you live above the scars and also help you speak up if you are still suffering from physical torment. whether from mother, father, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, master, etc.

Sometimes your tormentor makes you feel you deserve all the abuse he bestowed on you, he also tells you that they re the only people in the world who can tolerate you. But if you follow me down this week, you will soon find out who deserves who and who deserves what.

The second type of molestation is the type that most people don't even know they are suffering from and because its unnoticed, the damaging effect can not be overemphasized.

In this 21st century where the law speaks for the physically abused, no law has been made to protect the victim of emotional or psychological molestation.

Emotional or psychological molestation

To be continued
Green Inspiration.

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