In life one thing is for sure, that no marriage is immune to problem. Marriages have pain and grief, yet it's a risky routine undertaken by many people today, very sad that what started as a relationship with joy and happiness has become the most painful and frustrating thing in life especially between married partners.
WHAT ARE THE TRAIT?
Abusive Speech and
If you are experiencing difficulties in your marriage, do you think separation or devors would be the best way to resolve problems that are common in your marriage? Of-cous No.
Husbands and wives should love and respect each other. Since all husbands and wives are imperfect, learning to forgive is a key to happiness in marriage not separation or divorce
Both of you should work at treating each other with love and respect.
Note : why divorce or separation is not the solution to unhappy marriage.
First, before taking any decision to break up your marriage, you have to think wisely and deeply about it because divorce could not be the answer to the problem. Therefore you have to be informed about the involvement and implications of divorce before you can go ahead and take your decision.
Marriage is really for better and for worse, a life permanent bond of union, but today people see marriage as for better we stay and for worse we depart. Why? many marriages that broke up on trivial ground could have bean saved if both of them had been more forgiving to each other.
However, the only biblical ground for divorce and remarriage is on the ground of sexual relation outside your own marriage mate, that is the only right you could have to end your marriage if really you want to.
CHALLENGES AFTER DIVORCE
This challenge greatly affect women mostly after divorce, at this time they exist a bridge of financial support from the ex- mate. Women are most vulnerable to such challenges.
Also think about the emotional pain and consequence involve, don't you think it's enough reason you should give a great thought to it before seeking for a divorce?
However, if you chose to divorce, bear in mind that they will be a re-direction of your income. Making it uneasy to take care of your family expenses, especially your Children education and shelter. What about becoming dady and mummy to your children? These are the challenges.
EFFECT OF DIVORCE ON CHILDREN
lost of happiness
lost of hope
Feelings of being neglected.
Children are always the forgotten causalities regarding divorce.
EFFECT ON YOU
It is natural when you found out that your ex-mate is having dealing with someone else, you become jealous and down emotionally.
Remembrance of happy moment you once had together, all the sweetest words, such as. You are my eternal, i can't live without you, i will love you forever. Hmmmm, words of endearment you use to say to each other.
You could divorce only on the ground of unfaithfulness by your mate, to divorce or not to divorce is your right decision to take. Think of the involvement and consequence of divorce, think of your children, and think of yourself.
HOW TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE
Look at this from this angle, to renovate a building and to construct a flesh building from the foundation, which one among the two wound be more expensive or cheaper ? You would agree with me that to renovate a building will be less expensive than a flesh building.
That is how it is with an unhappy marriage.
Therefore, it can cost you little to save your unhappy marriage. How? By finding out the problem in your marriage.
Try to solve the problem with your mate, work hand to hand to restore the peace you once had in your marriage.
Set out a goal how to improve in your marriage life, this is all you have to do in other to save your marriage.
Divorce is not the solution to unhappy marriage, you can work out your problem gradually, lovingly and in peace.