HOW TO SOLVE PROBLEM



In a relationship problem are expected, in your marriage, problem will come, probably because of misunderstanding, negative thinking, and feeling from daily activities. 

(1)First point out the problem, spend time and talk about the problem, share your opinion on the matter. 

(2)Be truthful to your mate: speak nothing but the truth, do not fight even when there is disagreement, show respect and love to your partner, listen while he talk, never you interrupt. 

Listening is more vital while solving problem, pay good attention, don’t pretend to listen while you’re not, be slow to anger.

·        Listen with an open mind
·        Listen to words of your mate

Agreement 

When both of you agree on a decision, work through that decision and don’t call up past event to mind. 

Manage your money 

Money is for a protection, so we need money. As a family, don’t allow money to bring problem between you and your mate. 

Trust and honesty is needed in this regard, plan yourself, plan how to spend your money, either by:
 
v Building a house
v Buying electronics 
v Fashion
v Car and whatever. 

Please spend the money you have and avoid borrowing.
Don’t spend money anyhow because you have the money. NO DON’T! 
You don’t need a lot of cash before you can enjoy life with your mate, remember, greedy is bad. Your marriage is more important than money so don’t neglects your relationship. 

Today, some are not truthful or honest with their mate as regards how much money they earn monthly, weekly or daily. Some have different secret bank account without letting their mate know about it. Please see your own money as family money not your own personal cash. If you do the above guideline, your family will overly be happy. 

Make peace 

Marriage create three families
1)  Your own family with your mate
2)  Your own parent family
3)  The family of your mate that is your in-laws.
Among this three families, which one is the family is most important to you? 

Of course your own new family, your mate. Your mate should be seen as the most vital person on this earth. Without him, no one. In most cases your relative might disagree with you trying to create a happy marriage life. 

Consider this point  

1)  Proper view point:
Honor your parent, your in-law, and all your relatives. 

2)  Be firm: Don’t be rude. Be patience over your parent involvement in your marriage, humility, mildness and patience are important to build a happy family.
Next article will discuss about family happiness

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